Good. And no. You listen, you understand, and you reassure.
[ there's a disconnect here. he's not talking about steamrolling anyone - though admittedly, his explanation had been offhand enough that it could be implied. ]
"Valid" feedback depends on your assessment of validity, which stems from your perspective. Everyone offering feedback is going to view their feedback as valid, regardless of whether or not you agree with them. You have to actually listen.
Take your time. Whatever your instinct is, sit on it. Give yourself at least a minute of distance before you respond, and in that time start searching for a solution that already exists in the proposal. Things they may not have considered that will smooth over a concern. Or, failing that, an acknowledgement of the reasons why their opinion makes sense in the context they’re presenting it, but isn’t necessarily problematic enough to merit waylaying the plan.
They need to believe in this. They won’t unless you tell them why they should, and they won’t understand that fully unless you go at it from their perspective. Not everyone is a conqueror of tyranny.
That's really what he wants to say. He doesn't want to do it, clearly everyone is on the same page, someone else should present this whole stupid idea and leave him out of it if he's such a damn liability.
But that would be admitting defeat. And admitting he can't do something. Which would only be worse. ]
... Fine. [ He lets out a breath. ] Should I continue?
it really is important he learn these skills. for the number of bright ideas Hafid has and the number of people he rubs up the wrong way trying to make them heard, they need him to be better at this. more than that, he deserves to be.
there's an absence of confidence where there shouldn't be and if all it'll take to start him on the way to bridging that gap is some discomfort and some work, it's worth pressing through. and Hafid's stubbornness is doing that job for them. ]
[ He doesn't succeed in not rolling his eyes. This feels stupid, and he doesn't want to bother. Diplomacy and debate were two skills that went to rot on the vine when things went south, and he was raised to be a conqueror.
Fair debate is never something he was good at. Not when people either did what he wanted or left him to his own devices to get it done for them. ]
We have no shortage of talent among us. Our different backgrounds have given us a diverse skillset that's currently being wasted by our own lack of order. [ This feels so stupid. He rubs his face. ] I propose changing that by introducing voluntary groups that will focus on specific areas we need to improve on and help move us forward as an organization.
Combat. Business and Finance. Research and Development. Medical. Internal human relations. And Public Relations and Outreach.
Each committee will be under the supervision of one or more members of the Displaced, elected by the committee themselves.
What I propose is membership of these committees is strictly voluntary, but strongly encouraged. Many of us are experienced in different areas, so I'm not ruling out serving on multiple committees - but do what is within your limits.
There will also be two "ambassadors" who will serve as the face and effective heads of the organizations, ensuring that things are running smoothly and the necessary conversations are being had and heard. And if the day comes that we're exposed, they'll serve as the face of our organization to the world itself.
This is only a proposal. I can't force anyone to do this, and this only works through voluntary participation. But I encourage all of you to think about it, and if this is something you want to do, think of who you would want leading you and what you would like to do.
[ Stephen adds the transcribed version to the document as-is, no filtering necessary. might need a little bit of tweaking to fit the first and second parts together, but otherwise... ]
Alright. Let me know when it's time, I'll make sure I've got my calendar cleared.
[ wry, but something tells him he's going to want to avoid multitasking when this thing drops regardless of whether or not his physical presence is to be tolerated. ]
[ first, a sharp sound. what was this? gloves, applied before he even re-enters the room. at least this way they can bypass the extra complaint of activating the bond.
sensing resignation, Stephen approaches with the rest of his kit and without much caution. ]
[ the detail's the important part, less the circumstance. with that information in tow, it's on with the disinfectant swab. treatment all planned out. ]
[ conscious of the room for discomfort, Stephen's work is quick and efficient. stitches are one thing he's still not brought himself to do on actual skin since arriving here but this is a simple enough fix, a little medical glue and some suture strips to hold it in place ought to bypass the need, quality of resources here being what they are.
still requires precision, which takes time. more so with these hands and small wounds. it's as good an opportunity as any to ask a few more questions. ]
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[ you can tell how thrilled he is about the idea. ]
I have no problem with valid feedback.
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[ there's a disconnect here. he's not talking about steamrolling anyone - though admittedly, his explanation had been offhand enough that it could be implied. ]
"Valid" feedback depends on your assessment of validity, which stems from your perspective. Everyone offering feedback is going to view their feedback as valid, regardless of whether or not you agree with them. You have to actually listen.
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I do listen.
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That needs to be made obvious in your responses.
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And how do you suggest I do that?
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They need to believe in this. They won’t unless you tell them why they should, and they won’t understand that fully unless you go at it from their perspective. Not everyone is a conqueror of tyranny.
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That's really what he wants to say. He doesn't want to do it, clearly everyone is on the same page, someone else should present this whole stupid idea and leave him out of it if he's such a damn liability.
But that would be admitting defeat. And admitting he can't do something. Which would only be worse. ]
... Fine. [ He lets out a breath. ] Should I continue?
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it really is important he learn these skills. for the number of bright ideas Hafid has and the number of people he rubs up the wrong way trying to make them heard, they need him to be better at this. more than that, he deserves to be.
there's an absence of confidence where there shouldn't be and if all it'll take to start him on the way to bridging that gap is some discomfort and some work, it's worth pressing through. and Hafid's stubbornness is doing that job for them. ]
You should.
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Fair debate is never something he was good at. Not when people either did what he wanted or left him to his own devices to get it done for them. ]
We have no shortage of talent among us. Our different backgrounds have given us a diverse skillset that's currently being wasted by our own lack of order. [ This feels so stupid. He rubs his face. ] I propose changing that by introducing voluntary groups that will focus on specific areas we need to improve on and help move us forward as an organization.
Combat. Business and Finance. Research and Development. Medical. Internal human relations. And Public Relations and Outreach.
Each committee will be under the supervision of one or more members of the Displaced, elected by the committee themselves.
What I propose is membership of these committees is strictly voluntary, but strongly
encouraged. Many of us are experienced in different areas, so I'm not ruling out serving on multiple committees - but do what is within your limits.
There will also be two "ambassadors" who will serve as the face and effective heads of the organizations, ensuring that things are running smoothly and the necessary conversations are being had and heard. And if the day comes that we're exposed, they'll serve as the face of our organization to the world itself.
This is only a proposal. I can't force anyone to do this, and this only works through voluntary participation. But I encourage all of you to think about it, and if this is something you want to do, think of who you would want leading you and what you would like to do.
[ "Is that good enough"? goes unsaid. ]
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Perfect.
[ Stephen adds the transcribed version to the document as-is, no filtering necessary. might need a little bit of tweaking to fit the first and second parts together, but otherwise... ]
You were right about that ghost writer.
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[ He's good with pretty words. Less good in conversation. Too brash and angry and determined to be upfront. ]
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So. When are you thinking you'll put it up?
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[ wry, but something tells him he's going to want to avoid multitasking when this thing drops regardless of whether or not his physical presence is to be tolerated. ]
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[ He's going to need a leash. Several, in fact. ]
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with that said, Stephen gets up and heads for the kitchen. for the first aid kit. ]
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He's staying, but only so he can fiddle around with the document himself. What is it with everybody and fixing his face? ]
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sensing resignation, Stephen approaches with the rest of his kit and without much caution. ]
How'd you get it?
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[ An irritable grunt. ]
Someone wore a ring.
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[ the detail's the important part, less the circumstance. with that information in tow, it's on with the disinfectant swab. treatment all planned out. ]
They disqualify for that?
[ he's guessing this was the underground scene. ]
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[ His nose wrinkles. He hasn't had somebody clean his wounds since he was thirteen. ]
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That'd do it.
[ conscious of the room for discomfort, Stephen's work is quick and efficient. stitches are one thing he's still not brought himself to do on actual skin since arriving here but this is a simple enough fix, a little medical glue and some suture strips to hold it in place ought to bypass the need, quality of resources here being what they are.
still requires precision, which takes time. more so with these hands and small wounds. it's as good an opportunity as any to ask a few more questions. ]
You there often?
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[ He doesn't so much as flinch while Stephen does what he needs to do, but he looks annoyed at the fussing. ]
Where are you employed?
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Currently? Nowhere.
[ just keep gluing, just keep glu~ing ]
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